Navigating Your Relationship with Clarity & Compassion
Inclusive therapy for couples, polyamorous families, and partners of all identities. Whether you’re rebuilding trust, navigating desire differences, or planning an amicable separation, we offer an understanding space to find your path forward.
Every Relationship Deserves Honest, Nonjudgmental Support
Relationships are complex, and the reasons people seek therapy are just as diverse as the people themselves. At Pacific Pines Counseling, we believe that therapy is not just for partners trying to “save” their relationship or marriage. It is a tool for clarity in any dynamic.
We support partners who want to:
Rebuild: Repair trust after conflict, infidelity, or life transitions.
Navigate Differences: Address sexual desire discrepancies or libido differences, communication styles, or differing needs without shame.
End Well: Navigate an amicable separation to co-parent effectively and honor the shared history without disrupting your children’s lives.
Explore Complex Dynamics: Support toxic cycles, challenging seasons of life, or navigating friction within a relationship.
One Size Does Not Fit All
We don’t make assumptions about your goal or reason for seeking relationship therapy. Our work is guided by your specific needs and values. Here are just four ways our work might look:
For Couples Seeking Reconnection
We use evidence-based methods (like EFT or Gottman techniques) to de-escalate conflict in communication, rebuild emotional safety, and restore intimacy when you are both committed to growth.
For Navigating Desire & Intimacy Issues
If a mismatch in libido or sexual needs is causing strain, we provide a nonjudgmental space to explore these emotions, negotiate boundaries, and find a rhythm that works for both partners.
For Complex Family Structures
Whether you’re in a monogamous marriage, a polyamorous throuple, or an LGBTQIA+ relationship, your story contains unique legal, social, and emotional layers that come with your specific structure.
For Separation & Co-Parenting
If it’s time to part ways, our focus shifts to minimizing conflict and creating a sustainable co-parenting plan that prioritizes your children’s well-being. We help you transition from partners to collaborative parents with dignity.
Inclusive Space for All Identities & Lifestyle
Your emotions are valid *and* your relationship structure is valid. As such, we tailor our approach to honor them both.
We are proudly LGBTQIA+ affirming, Kink-Positive (Fetish/Kink Aware), and experienced in supporting Polyamorous and Non-Monogamous relationships.
We serve relationships across Washington State, around the Puget Sound region, including:
Urban & Suburban Families: from Tacoma and University Place to Bellevue, Medina, and Clyde Hill.
Island Communities: Supporting couples on the San Juan Islands, Vashon, Gig Harbor, and Bellingham.
Eastside & Beyond: Serving clients in Snoqualmie, Kirkland, and surrounding areas.
Whether you’re navigating a high-conflict divorce, exploring ethical non-monogamy for the first time, or seeking to understand your own sexual identity with a partnership, we are here to listen without judgment.
When Relationship Therapy Might Be Right for You:
The “Roommate” Phase: Feeling emotionally disconnected or lacking intimacy
Sex Drive Differences: One partner has a much higher or lower libido, causing resentment or feelings of rejection
High Conflict: Constant arguing, stonewalling, or feeling unsafe in communication
Infidelity & Betrayal: Navigating the aftermath of an affair or emotional cheating and deciding whether to stay or to consciously uncouple
Amicable Separation: Planning a respectful divorce or separation to protect your children’s well-being.
Complex Dynamics: Managing family caregiving, jealousy, hierarchy issues in polycules, or navigating neurodivergent partnerships
Specialized Training for Complex Needs
Specifically trained to work with:
LGBTQIA+ Couples: Affirming of all gender identities and sexual orientations
Kink & Fetish Communities: Understanding the specific nuances of power exchange, consent, and community dynamics
Polyamory & ENM: Experienced in managing multiple relationships, compersion, and boundary setting
Advanced certifications in trauma-informed care
Member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT)
Let’s Talk About What You Need Right Now
Whether you’re looking to save your relationship, understand a difficult dynamic, or plan a respectful separation, you deserve support that honors your truth. We serve clients across Washington State, from Tacoma, Gig Harbor, Bellingham, and everywhere in between.
Note: All consultations include a brief discussion about your goals, whether that is rebuilding or parting ways.